My best friend recently started dating this kid who's a year younger than us. She described him as an angel among men, a total sweetheart, blah blah blah. I was very excited to meet him. She's never had much luck with dating, so I thought, hey, she might have found a good one.
But I was so wrong. He's loud, rude, annoying, can't keep his hands off of her, and upon meeting him, he immediately started criticizing my boyfriend and I over something completely idiotic. I don't like him, but my friend talks about him endlessly. Ever since my friend started dating him, she has managed to steer every conversation in the direction of either glorifying the army or shoving her politics in my face, because that's what he likes to talk about. I have nothing against the army or her politics, but they're the last two things I'd like to talk about, if only because she sounds like an ignorant prick when she gets on those subjects.
But she totally glorifies this kid, and doesn't act like herself with him. She becomes a rude, obnoxious teenager whenever she's with him, when in reality she's very intelligent and more refined than most girls I know. She sinks down to his level, and then puts him up on a pedestal. She's always been under the impression that a girl should behave a certain way, and that it's a girl's duty to make her "man" happy, and so she's changing herself to be more like him. I don't like that. I liked my friend the way she was before, and now she's becoming something that I don't like. I don't want to lose her, but I can see where this relationship is going. I don't know what to do. ;_;

Am I allowed to talk even though you don't know me yet? Eh screw that, I'll post anyways. Hi! I'm newish to the forum.

It sucks being in that position. There's no way around it, it just sucks. Depending on how well your friend responds to feedback, I really think you should sit her down and say all this. Don't make it out like she's a moron or that the person is the spawn of Satan, just tell her that she's acting very unlike her and being insulting to you and that you don't really enjoy the company of her boyfriend.
You don't need to dump her, but don't hang around her when she's acting this way. I'm sure you'd much rather be *insert fun activity with other friends and/or boyfriend* than discussing military and politics, especially if she wont let you switch topics or end the conversation.
You said she has a habit of picking bad boyfriends, what's made her realize that the previous ones weren't worth it either? She'll probably follow the same pattern this time. If she can handle it, hold an intervention and show her the similarities between her boyfriend choices and what it does to her. If she can't, you might just need to ride this one out, step back a little bit to keep from killing him, and then pick up the pieces after. If they actually stick together, then stay available in hopes that she will want to become herself again someday, but I'm sorry for her change and your loss in friendship.

That's my two cents, feel free to ignore it and just keep ranting about the idiot boyfriend until he happily disappears from your life.

Yeah. I've had a bunch of friends date people I would rather kill than speak to. It hurts, but you can't stop them, especially if they wont listen to you.

If this boy is so overly dependent on proving he's macho, then maybe he is a closet case too :p Really just sounds like he needs to grow up though. The military might be good for him in that sense if he actually joins...long as he gets someone to put him in his place for a while and teach him what respect is. It did good for my brother-in-law but then again I've known a lot of idiots to come out of it too. I do hope your friend snaps out of it eventually and can be a little more stable in herself. Sounds like she really means a lot to you when she is

This sounds a lot like my friend and I. She got this new boyfriend and now she's kind of snobby towards me and she's attempting to change herself so she's less "prudish" for him. The farthest she's went with a guy is barely touchy feely while making out with her ex and within two weeks of dating him she was asking me for advice on further actions. It just pisses me off.

Best of luck to you as I have no idea what to tell you. Or else I'd be able to help myself.